A couple weeks ago, I posted author Gretchen Rubin’s quiz to identify which tendency in her four-part framework describes how you respond to inner and outer expectations. This can help us understand why we act and why we don’t act—at lunch, or anytime.
Did you try it? I did.
I was surprised to discover that I’m an Upholder. I’m less surprised that Upholder is a discipline-loving tendency, and that it’s not the most common one among the 1M+ people who’ve taken this quiz. There’s some Questioner in me, too. While it’s true that I’ll do what I say I’m going to do for myself and other people, it’s only when I believe it’s what’s best. Just someone wants something done doesn’t mean I’ll do it. (Sorry.)
Do these Box Lunch Lifestyle tips fit your tendency?
UPHOLDER: “I do what others expect of me—and what I expect from myself.”
Because you only embrace changes that feel truly gratifying, be sure you’re pursuing a quiet dream that’s an honest “want to” and not a “should.”
The best choices for each day are wins—not “perfect” ones (e.g., don’t overdose on Better Food discipline).
QUESTIONER: “I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”
Trust that your Box Lunch Lifestyle practice is based on the sound theories of a lot of smart people including not only Gretchen Rubin, but also James Clear, Michael Pollan, and Chris Guillebeau to name a few.
There’s no arbitrary start date. If you believe a better life comes with a better lunch, today’s the day.
OBLIGER: “I do what I have to do. I don’t want to let others down, but I may let myself down.”
Aahhh! Here’s your permission to be just a little bit selfish most days of the week.
A Box Lunch Lifestyle should be fun, and easy to explain to friends at work who can help keep you on track. (Or join in!)
REBEL: “I do what I want, in my own way. If you try to make me do something—even if I try to make myself do something—I’m less likely to do it.
You make the Box Lunch Lifestyle rules that work for you—or make them and break them. (But don’t kid yourself that a little self-love doesn’t matter.)
This can be as public or private as you want. Rebel as you wish.
Do you have other Four Tendencies ideas, thoughts, or suggestions to share? Don’t be shy.
P.S. If you want to learn even more, at the time of this posting Gretchen Rubin is also offering this online course.